Q: How can I find members on fetlife?
A: There is an EH-Discord group on fetlife. If you want to join, here is the link: https://fetlife.com/groups/158294
Q: Can I post my own Hypnosis files?
A: Sure! When posting files in the #hypnotic-audios please write a short description:
* What it is about?
* Effects that it has (e.g. obedience, arousal, orgasm, …)
* Triggers that will be given and maybe stay
* subliminals or binaurals included?
So that people can decide beforehand if they want to listen to it or not
Q: How does discord work and how do I figure things out?
A: watch that video
Q: What is Hypnosis?
A: here is a nice short gif
Q: What do the gender signs mean?
A: You can find an explanation here http://www.cakeworld.info/transsexualism/gender-symbols
Q:How do I get people to answer my Hypnosis request?
A: Here are a few tips from eula, if you want people to react to your request and how it can work:
- tell something about yourself, your favorites, your experience and your style.
- be as specific as you can on what you want and what you are searching for.
- you are working with people, not masturbation machines ;-). Hypnosis is a lot about trust and rapport. Take some time to get to know to people in this community.
- be on voice, talk to people and get to know them. When people know each other they will more likely react to a request.
- do not post the same request over and over again. That looks needy to others.
- do a pre-talk (maybe on text) to find out if it clicks, about boundaries and if you are feeling safe with that person (Both tists and subjects).
- if it comes to a session: Do clear arrangements about dos and don'ts!! It is for the safety of both.
- Do some aftercare, post-talk and give some feedback.
Q: How you can cope with difficult emotions without causing drama in the server?
A: How you're feeling? What you could do to get through it: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/borderline-personality-disorder-bpd/self-care-for-bpd/#daytoday
Q: How can I deal with abreactions?
A: A very well said piece of good advice from @MindTheBaron ♂:
- Abreactions happen, it's not necessarily anyone's fault. Learn from it what you can, but don't blame yourself more than you should.
- In general, don't drop an abreacting subject. Metaphorically, you've blown out a tire on the highway. Just pull over.
- If you're not a therapist, don't do therapy. Focus on keeping the subject safe and helping the subject back to their normal state of mind.
- Help the subject return to their normal state of mind by making grounding suggestions, like focusing on their breathing, or engaging with real things in the space around them. Make sure they know they aren't dealing with this alone.
- Once the subject is returning to their normal state of mind, give aftercare as you can and stay with them, probably longer than you think. It's not always clear when a subject is stable enough to be left alone.
- If you have any doubts about managing the situation, reach out for help. Get someone with more experience to either offer more specific advice in the moment, or even engage with the subject.
Q: What can I do if I have voice Problems?
A: here is a good advice written by @Perl: General info about volume problems:
1) Echo problem
a) Use earbuds/headphones or
b) Set the voice activation sensitivity high (more to the right)
2) Cutting out
a) Set the voice activation lower (more to the left)
b) Make sure you hold the push to talk button long enough
3) They complain you are low
a) Come closer to the mic or
b) Increase the mic gain in Discord or your system's volume mixer
4) They complain you are loud
a) Move mic away from your mouth or
b) Lower the mic gain in Discod or your system's volume mixer
In Discord you can find the voice settings in the lower left corner, next to the headphone icon, choose “Voice & Video”. You can also adjust the volume of every user by right clicking on their profile icon. In general, going on push to talk solves most problems, but may be annoying.
Q: How can subjects and hypnotists act responsibly?
A: A good writing by @Perl: Another topic I want to bring up, is responsibility. Subjects responsibilities and tists responsibilities.
Subjects responsibilities in my eyes:
- Knowing their limits and communicate them
- Always being able to bring themselves up, because accidently dropping someone is something that happens.
- Always, Always communicate or speak up if you are uncomfortable, don't wait, bring yourself up, and communicate what's up, even if it's a minor thing, or at least tell about it after the session
- Don't push a tist to do something they aren't really comfortable about doing.
- Be careful about going deep with a tist if it's the first session ever with the tist, this way, you keep yourself more safe, because your more "present".
- Remember that aftercare is a thing. Talking about positive and negative feedback will help, and it builds better understanding between the subject and the tist.
The hypnotists responsibilities:
- Make sure you have consent, at least general consent.
- Remember to keep an eye on the subject, are they comfortable with the situation (this is difficult over text, I understand that much, however make sure you ask after the session then at least, it shows that you care about their well being)
- Never agree to something that you are uncomfortable with in the first place, in many cases that does not end well.
- Ask for feedback, especially in the period of getting to know each other properly, REMEMBER that aftercare is a thing, for both of you.
- Abreactions happens, don't panic, gently wake them up, and do proper aftercare, and let them feel safe.
I like to use a couple of mottos:
- Always be: Safe Sane and Consensual (also called SSC)
- Understand that this is often a Risk-Aware Consensual Kink (RACK), for many. This is not a perfect guide, as I've only been in the community for a year, but this is what I felt like communicate and remind people about!"